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How to Solve Our Human Problems: The Four Noble Truths
by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
Edition: Paperback

5.0 out of 5 stars
If you have problems with anger, this is the book for you

The book is really divided into two sections, one which illustrates the central points of Buddha’s teachings, highlighting that the source of all human suffering is really all in our minds. That it is our perspective on a person or event or thing, the ‘broken car’, the ‘enemy’ at work, that often stops us from being happy.

The second part of the book contains advice on anger, and how to cultivate patience.

The central argument he puts forward is that anger is a destructive mind, which causes pain to ourselves and to others. And that in the grip of anger, people behave in the most unskillful and even dangerous ways.

In the West we feel anger is a good thing, active, ‘getting things out in the open’ as it were, instead of ‘repressing.’ What it most often does, however, is makes the whole situation worse, because we are letting our often deluded mind, clouded by anger and disappointment, call the shots.
Think of Basil Fawlty in Fawlty Towers-his constant anger drove people away, and only made his daily life more and more complicated! I kept thinking of the scene where he gets so angry at his car he says, “Right, I’ll show you,” and begins to beat it with a huge tree branch while he tells it all the things that he has always hated about it. It doesn’t benefit him at all-he is still stuck right where he is, beating the same thing up over and over again.

We may not use the tree branch with our loved ones, but verbal lashing out can be even more damaging-we can easily get a new car, but can we easily get a new friend, partner, child?

As Geshe Kelsang Gyatso says, a patient mind is able to step back from the situation to see how best to deal with it without flying off the handle and causing one to do or say something they will definitely regret.

Arguments with loved ones, for example, are supposed to restore harmony and peace, but how often do they really? A whole chapter on reasons not to retaliate is excellent as well.

This is a very clear and concise book for people interested in learning more about Buddhism, based on Buddha’s first teaching, the 4 Noble Truth, which tell us that if we know where suffering comes from, its true causes, we can take steps to end it.

The ideas for managing anger and cultivating patience in order to keep control of even the most difficult situations is one which any reader can benefit from.

Geshe Kelsang is a Tibetan teacher of Mahayana Buddhism (Sutra and Tantra) who lives in England and has spent his career making these teachings clear and applicable to Westerners.

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http://www.wisdombuddhadorjeshugden.org

In Buddhism, all Buddhas are deemed to be the same nature.

And all objects are mere appearance to our minds.

http://westernshugdensociety.org

has eyewitness accounts.

This is the equivalent of nuns and priests being ejected from their homes for worshipping one particular saint who was no longer ‘in favor’, despite centuries of being told how essential he was.

The human right situation in Tibet is deplorable enough without more suffering being caused unduly through a point of doctrine which is coming from one person’s own mind.

The Dalai Lama is not infallible. And one should not look for Buddhahood except within one’s own mind, by perfecting all one’s best qualities.  Buddhists are supposed to practice compassion; even if we disagree with others, we do not try to force them to see our point of view.

Another central tenet of Buddhism is ahimsa, to do no harm. Clearly these people have been harmed.

Again, the situation in Tibet is dire enough without a Buddhist schism being started by HH the Dalai Lama.

We don’t like hypocrisy. We hope you don’t either. Let’s exercise some wisdom, and stop denying these devout practitioners their homes and their rights.

Book Review: Dear Lover: A Woman’s Guide To Men, Sex, And Love’s Deepest Bliss
by David Deida

5.0 out of 5 stars
A superb book for any couple who wants to live in true harmony and love

The author’s previous book ‘Superior Man’ is for men, and an excellent guide, but this is the companion volume for women, and gives deep insights into how a true man of integrity is able to and really wants to love the woman in his life. One woman, for this lifetime and even into the next. He writes beautifully and candidly, and each time I read it, I see more and more what I am able to share Tantrically with my partner.

We have created bliss on a daily basis through skill, determination, discipline, and above all, love, and this from a man who is by no means easy to live with or love! And one who never even thought he knew how to love, because all his other relationships had failed so miserably.

Deida’s advice about loving each other open to the divine even when ’stuff’ gets in the way is one we would all do to remember. After all, what is more sublime than living and being in love-having that 24/7, 365 days a year, always, at every moment, is well worth it. So take the advice offered to heart in this moving book. And read his other books, like Wild nights and Blue Truth, and definitely get Superior Man for your guy. If you train and practice love, and Tantra, and be happy, you really will experience deepst bliss.  It really does work! And as good as it sounds in the book, it is even better in real life.
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