Here is a sample romance agreement to help give you some ideas about how to keep the romance in your relationship.
ROMANCE AGREEMENT
For ________and__________
Date ______________
The purpose of this agreement is to identify and plan actions and activities we can take with each other or for each other that nurture our feelings of love for one another.
We agree to have a “date night” once a week. The date night can/willl include the following:
1. Some private down time when we get home from work
2. A meal at a different restaurant,
3. Or a take out meal with paper plates and plastic cutlery so no one is stuck with the dishes
4. A movie or video together/mututal choice, or we can take turns choosing
5. A romantic bath, shower, massage, and lovemaking
We agree to have a “date day” at least once a month. The date day will include the following:
1. A walk somewhere in nature,
2. a picnic
3. Romantic foreplay, massage and sex,
4. A meal at a new restaurant we’ve never tried before
5. A movie or video together
6. A mutually agreed upon activity, such as horseriding rollerblading
7. a trip to a day spa
8. a lazy morning with breakfast in bed and lovemaking
9. a lazy day in bed with a shower together
10. a fun bruch
11. a trip to a museum or sporting event
We agree that, if possible, it is desirable for sex to take place early enough in the night/day so that our energy levels are good.
At least once a week we agree to put on soft music and light candles while we read from a couple-affirming book or spiritual materials together.
We agree that quickie sex is just great if the mood srikes us, so long as we don’t scare the horses or children.
At least once a day we connect as a couple with touching, holding, kissing, or even just looking into each other’s eyes.
At least once a month we agree to give our partner a love note and/or gift.
At least once a day, we will take it in turns to consciously llisten to each other interrupting or trying to “fix things’.
At least once a day, we will take turns to cultivate an ‘attitidue of gratitude’ and express appreciation for the positive things we share, and thank each other for what your partner adds to out life.
At least once a year, we agree to have a ‘vacation’ together, even if we don’t have a lot of money.
We can take time off work to spend together, go to a hotel for a change of scenery and to get away from housethold chores, can find a nice B and B for a weekend getaway, or any other mutually agreed upon activity.
We agree to review this agreement together during the first week of each month to set a date for our “date day”, and weekly to help us stay focused on our progress toward our commitment.
We will also know that as much as we look forward to our date night or date day, that circumstances might oblige us to reschedule from time to time. On the event of having to postpone, we will be understanding and try to re-schedule as soon as possible thereafter.
This agreement is entered into willingly and lovingly by
_______________________ _____________________ on ______
Partner #1 Partner #2 Date
To read more, see:
Keeping the Romance in Your Relationship Part 9
